Meet PJ

Hello y’all.  Thanks for stopping by my blog!  For a long time, I had a hard time finding plus-size clothing that fit my style.  I joined Pintrest and started learning about different on-line stores that carried clothing in my size.  As I would find a site, I’d add it to my list.  Over the course of the last year it became pretty substantial.  I started to notice several “Top 10 places to shop for plus-size clothing” pins and realized that there were other women out there, like me, who wanted better options.  I thought it would be great if all of the plus-size sites were listed all in one place.  After much complaining about it, my husband said, “Why don’t you start a blog so you can have the links all in one place and share it with other women who maybe don’t know.”  As usual, he was on to something so, I decided to start a blog to share what I find along with issues that concern us plus-sized types (plus whatever else I think you might find interesting).

One thing I like to do a little differently with my blog is add a song.  Sometimes, I try to find something that I think matches the topic of the post so the reader can listen while they read.  If I can’t find one that’s on topic that I like, I try to find a song that’s unique that I thought the reader might find interesting.  While some of the tunes are popular, I often try to look for things in different music genres just because I’m a little quirky that way.  I have a very deep appreciation for music of all kinds.  It amazes me that at some point, someone was walking around with a tune in their head and was able to put notes down and make a song.  God did not see fit to give me this talent, instead I just appreciate it for those that He did give it to.

I was born in Georgia and lived there most of my life. I have a very large family as my grandmother on my father’s side had twenty-three brothers and sisters.  Probably if you look hard enough, you’ll discover that you and I are kin.  Even if you don’t, our family is so big, we’d claim you anyway.  My mother’s side of the family has a strong line of Cherokee Indian.  Also, there’s my step-dad’s family, which is also quite large.  On the subject of my step-dad, I need to take a moment and say here that he does not fit the usual perception of a step-parent (think mirror, mirror on the wall).  He is the most wonderful man I have ever known and the best father I could have ever hoped for.  In my everyday life, I just think of him (and call him) Dad.

In high school, I studied to become a personal assistant, but life was changing.  Computers came along and began to move the world forward in ways I’d never dreamed of.  A task that once took several hours to accomplished was suddenly completed in a few minutes.  Not sure of my path, I went to work at what was once the largest mental institution (sadly, it is only a whisper of what it once was).

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During my early years there, I was married to my first husband.  In my late 20’s, two major things happened to catapult me into making a life changing decision – to go to nursing school.  First, I discovered that I could not have children of my own and second, my marriage fell apart.  Being single, I had the time and unable to have kids, I needed a way to use my caring skills.  Nursing has given me that and so much more.

The first year after my marriage ended was a difficult one.  I suffered from bouts of incredible anger and depression coupled with low self-esteem.  I was very lucky to have a great therapist that helped me though that time.  She helped me learn to deal with my grief and self-esteem issues.  At the same time, a great boss helped me see that I could go back to school.  These women were powerful motivators in my life and I will never be able to thank them enough.  I believe that the lessons that I learned from them began my journey into a more positive acceptance of who I am.  And while I didn’t completely digest all they had to teach me at the time, I truly believe that the lessons that have carried through have helped me better accept me for who I am, no matter what that looks like or what shape it comes in.  Believe me, there are worse things than being plus-sized.

Since I was working full-time, I decided on an LPN program, later I bridged to ADN and most recently, I received my BSN.  While I have worked in a lot of areas of nursing, mental health always seems to beckon me back.  I am extremely passionate about stopping the stigma of mental illness.

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I called my therapy, “doing the work.”  A part of “doing the work” was realizing that I didn’t have to have biological children to be a mom because I was already a step-mom to a really great daughter, who now has a daughter and a step-son.  I thought that might be where it ended, but God wasn’t quite done with me yet.  My niece, Chicka, was born  the year I learned I wouldn’t have any of my own and somehow we have developed a very special bond.

A long term relationship that I had during the years between my marriages gave me another “daughter” who has three beautiful children.  Sadly, her dad recently passed away.  While we were no longer in each others lives, we parted as friends.  It is a hard thing to lose someone who was once very important in your life.  Rest In Peace, Mike.

In 2008, I married Rick, whom I fondly refer to in the blog as “The Dane.”  Though him, I became a step-mother again to his three children.

Thanks to all of my children, I now have grandchildren who call me Mimi.

I am very fortunate to have found the love of my life.  He is the best husband ever and also the best friend I’ve ever had.  Rick and I live in Upstate Carolina, in what he refers to as our “Ivy-covered cottage” and we frequently go on “adventures.”

Both of us are Christians and we enjoy a very full church life.  In addition, we both like hiking, photography and canoeing.  I love Zumba and take a class once a week (The Dane won’t go with me though).  When our Zumba instructor has to be out, a Zumba classmate teaches Yoga, so I am beginning to try that on my own at home (because I suck at it in class).  Recently, The Dane and I began a 10,000 step challenge, so you’ll see me wearing my fitbit in most of the photos.

I would say we are empty nesters, except it isn’t usually empty as we are very fortunate to have a very close-knit group of friends and family that help fill up our home.  That and five Peacocks.  They are beautiful and unique creatures.  Everyone loves having them around.  Good thing too as there is NO WAY you can have peacocks and not know they were around.  They keep things very loud!

Mainly my blog is about helping women find places to buy clothing that they like, but occasionally I’m sure that issues that I’m passionate about will find their way into the posts.  I’m sure it won’t be long before I’m telling you all about my bad hair days (I have an absolute hate/hate relationship with my hair), a new recipe that I found that’s worth sharing, highlights from our adventures, tales of the peacocks or some great tidbit of advice that I found that I’ll just need to share. I also look forward to learning many new and awesome things from all of you.







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The Dane and Me



A Man and his Bird-these birds are very strange. They love following The Dane around while he’s on the lawn mower.


This is Bangkok – he’s usually very beautiful, but the birds are all molting right now.

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